{"product_id":"out-of-the-fog-moving-from-confusion-to-clarity-after-narcissistic-abuse","title":"Out of the Fog: Moving from Confusion to Clarity After Narcissistic Abuse","description":"Lying. Cheating. Manipulating.\n\nWill they ever change?\n\nWhat will it take to get through to them?\n\nThey apologized, but will this time be different...or will they just get better at hiding what they are up to?\n\nThis book will help you get out of the fog of confusion and into the clarity you are looking for.\n\nFOG is an acronym that stands for \"Fear, Obligation, and Guilt.\" These three emotions are often at the core of manipulation, and are often how narcissists, sociopaths, and other types of emotional manipulators go about controlling their targets.\n\nHowever, this type of destructive manipulation isn't just limited to narcissists and sociopaths.\n\nThere is no shortage of people with well-intended bad advice out there who unintentionally fall into the FOG as well, and push targets of abuse into keeping the relationship going.\n\nThe FOG is one of the main reasons that people stay \"stuck\" in abusive relationships for so long, why they continue to get involved with abusive people, why they feel that they are the problem, and why they tend to feel that the abuse is somehow their fault.\n\nWhen a person is being manipulated they have a hard time figuring out who has the problem, what is normal, what is problematic, and if their wants, needs, and feelings are valid. The disasterous effects of being lost in the FOG are confusion, crazymaking, people pleasing, and an erosion of boundaries.\n\nWhat makes this well-intended bad advice so damaging is that, on the surface, it seems like good advice--especially if it's coming from people who seem to have our best interests in mind, such as friends, family, church members, support group members, or a therapist.\n\nSome examples of this well-intended bad advice that comes from other people is:\n\n\"Who are you to judge?\"\n\"No one is perfect.\"\n\"You need to forgive them.\"\n\"She's your mother, you need to have a relationship with her...she's not getting any younger you know.\"\n\"Commitment is forever.\"\n\nWhat can be so crazymaking for targets is that they are often getting two very different messages. On one hand, they are told that they need to work towards a solution, and on the other, they are told that need to leave a partner who lies, cheats, steals, hits, yells, or belittles them.\n\nThis book compares and contrasts of these concepts so that targets of any type of manipulation and abuse can make a more empowered decision.\n\nSome of the concepts covered are:\n\nWho are You to Judge vs. Being Discerning\nNo One is Perfect vs. Tolerating Abuse\nYou Need to Forgive Them vs. Keeping Yourself Safe\nA Parent vs. A Predator\nCommitment vs. Codependency\nSelf-love vs. Selfishness\nA Person Acting the Part vs. A Person Actually Changing\nGut Instincts vs. Hypervigilance\nA Friend vs. Someone Being Friendly\nCaring vs. Caretaking\nBeing in Love With Them vs. Being in Love With Who They Pretended to Be\nWorkable Behavior vs. Deal Breakers\nAcceptance vs. Allowance\nGoing Through So Much Together vs. Being Put Through So Much By Them\nSincerity vs. Intensity\nHealthy Bonding vs. Trauma Bonding\nInsincere Remorse vs. Sincere Remorse\nReacting vs. Responding\n\n...and many more.\u003cbr\u003eASIN: 0999593528\u003cbr\u003eVSKU: DBV.0999593528.VG\u003cbr\u003eCondition: Very Good\u003cbr\u003eAuthor\/Artist:Morningstar, Dana\u003cbr\u003eBinding: Paperback\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eNote:\u003c\/b\u003e Any images shown are stock photographs and product may differ from what is shown.  \u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eCondition Notes\u003c\/b\u003e: Pages are clean with no markings. May show minor signs of wear or cosmetic defects  marks, cuts, bends, or scuffs  on the cover, spine, pages, or dust jacket. May have remainder marks on edges.  \u003cbr\u003e","brand":"Dream Books Co.","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":41582373273658,"sku":"DBV.0999593528.VG","price":8.29,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0555\/6011\/0138\/files\/0999593528-0.jpg?v=1786075508","url":"https:\/\/shop.dreambooksco.com\/products\/out-of-the-fog-moving-from-confusion-to-clarity-after-narcissistic-abuse","provider":"Dream Books Co.","version":"1.0","type":"link"}